Thursday, March 29, 2012

Busy, busy March

It's been a crazy month around here! My sister and her family visited at the beginning of the month during the kids' Spring break and we finalized the purchase of our new house.

The visit with my Suz and her family was wonderful. I love having them around and it is always hard to see them go. My niece is 18 months now and is getting chatty and developing her own little personality.

Buying a house has been quite the ordeal. The lovely state of Arizona (according to our lender) will not allow a same-sex couple to be listed as married on lending paperwork, because the state does not recognize same-sex marriages of any kind.  The frustrating part here is that RK and I do not have a same-sex marriage, but a federally recognized marriage between a man and a woman that does not go away with transition.

We fought hard with the lender, but at the end it came down to us continuing to fight and losing the house, or agreeing to be listed as "unmarried single women with rights to suvivor-ship" and continuing the fight after the fact. We chose the latter and I am meeting with a lawyer within the next week or two. I am not sure what, if anything, will come of it, but we would like to try to be trail-blazers so that other couples in our situation do not have to go through what we did. If anyone out there has suggestions or legal contacts, please leave a comment or send an email.

Everything else has been running fairly smoothly. We have a lot of company coming to visit over the next couple of months, and I am hoping that all of those visits are positive and pleasant.


  1. Oh, bummer. Even though you didn't get what you wanted, you are planting the seeds for eventual progress in your State. Good job, and great post!

  2. Thanks, Emily. I have said from the beginning that we are in this situation for a reason. I have always been feisty and loved politics and law - it should be interesting to see how it all shakes out.

  3. It's incredibly lame that your legal marriage isn't recognized! Maybe your trail blazing will impact our fight as well! I'm glad you're getting settled!